When things fall apart you go through stages. The key is not to get stuck in any stage. In the beginning I was in denial, drowning myself with alcohol, partying as often as possible just to relieve the pain. What came next was depression, worsening more and more as I searched for new vices to cover up that pain. It got so bad that I stopped interacting with society—and that’s when it happened. I decided I was better than what I have become. So I started reading, watching self help videos, talking to people who have overcome hardships, and doing things that I’ve never done, but always wanted to do. From then on I realized that self growth one of the major players in happiness—not the things you own, not your salary, not your car and not how many people are impressed by you, but by feeling like you are going somewhere, accomplishing things, are needed by others—these things will surface out of self improvement.
Take each stage with this thought in mind:
If I continue to truly live, despite whatever feelings of sadness I may have, then this hole that I’m in, it will be gone sooner than later.
But if I choose to stay stagnant because of my pain—I will stay in this hole forever. Be strong my friend, better days are coming.💙
—Wilfred’s Simple Thoughts (at Hermosa Beach Pier)